"So, for context, we're both 27M and have been together for around eight years. I work a job that pays [$60,000] a year, and he is unemployed and collects 'benefits' [from] his parents," the OP explained, adding that his partner has been unemployed since COVID and "never got around to finding a job again."

The OP said he recently found a house he loved; he and his partner visited together and decided it was the place for them. After completing all the necessary paperwork, the OP told his partner they should be able to move in in a few months. Unfortunately, things don't turn out too well.

The OP's partner asked to go through the paperwork; just days later, he confronted the OP and asked why everything was in his name. The OP said, "It's my money and I'm the one paying the mortgage, you're not putting any money or effort into the property." The partner told the OP he's being "financially abusive" and can't expect to own everything.

Later on, the two had a serious talk; the OP agreed to leave the house in his partner's name and most of his savings in his will. The OP's partner said that's not enough, insisting that he'll have nothing if they ever break up.

"It gets heated, and I tell him [if] he wanted a house, he should have worked for it, not stayed at home and relied on me. I said if he wanted to be on the mortgage, it means he will have to find a job that pays the same as mine," the OP wrote, noting that it's been days and the argument hasn't been resolved.

In an update, the OP said he and his partner had a "difficult conversation" where he offered to put his partner's name on the document only if he paid rent toward the mortgage. As expected, things didn't go too well.

"Unfortunately, this had a lot of backlash, and he made the claim of me being financially abusive again," the OP said. "I have now said that he cannot move with me to the new house if he does not contribute to it. He said he feels betrayed and belittled. I feel like I'm in the same situation I was at the start."